I can just imagine how your wife feels. Devastated. Heartbroken. Shocked. Reeling. Sick to her stomach. Ready to throw up. Ok, i take that back. I can't even fathom the depths of her pain. You idiot, it is YOU who is the problem in this marriage, not her! Your mother was too involved in herself and in picking the "PERFECT" shidduch for her perfect son, but never bothered to teach her perfect son some skills he needs for marriage. Like giving. And understanding. And realizing that men and women are inherently different, and if Chani is doing something that's bugging you, before you write her off as crazy, see if thats the typical woman and reevaluate if maybe YOU're the crazy one!
So you say you worked on yourself and you still were having issues. Idiot, you were married all of 8 months- it takes a lifetime to work on yourself. How long were you actually working? 5 minutes? Working on yourself doesnt mean improving for 5 minutes and expecting immediate results. Its a constant work, and you're too immature to realize that.
If you actually realized that marriages are from heaven and that the mizbeach weeps when people get divorced, you wouldnt be so quick to run away.
Ok, so you want out. Not that you hate her or hate the idea of marriage, its just that you arent happy with the current situation. So fine. Tell her you arent happy and that you want to get divorced. See if that shocks her enough into forcing the two of you to work things out. Go to counseling. Whatever.
Or if that isnt enough, leave, and go to your parents home, and let her have a way to reach you.
What do you think happened? You think she's thrilled you're getting divorced? Maybe when she read your letter, the thoughts that went through her head was "OMG, what have i done? I've gotta fix things. I'm willing to do anything." But by then it would have been too late. Because you're gone, and there is absolutely no way for her to make things better.
So you think you solved your problems by running away?
Do you plan on being a bachelor your whole life? Or do you plan on getting remarried one day?
I just want you to know, dirtbag, that any woman you'd marry would be exactly the same way. We are women and we are created differently, and you have to face that if you ever want to have a happy marriage. So if you would ever get remarried, you'd have to come to terms with teh same exact reason you're divorcing your wife.
You, mister, just killed your only chance of ever having a happy marriage.
You deserve it.
I'm sickened that i have to know someone like you.
