Why do i get stuck with them?

It appears my life is just a bunch of "Why?"s.

I hate that I get stuck with a social circle I don't care for, merely because we're all rejects.
In high school it wasnt nearly so bad, because we had quite a circle of rejects, and some became good freinds. But none stayed for life, for we really had nothing in common aside for being losers.

In seminary, I was roomed with a girl that just bugged me. Cant tell you why, she just did.

And there was this other girl that liked me but was really immature. She acted in ways that I did in the past, being all clingy and hyper and making funny squeaky voices and talking when no one was interested in what she had to say, and being around her gave me the willies, as i felt neb by association. So I tried to steer clear of her, because I didnt want to be linked to "THE NERD".
Maybe I was getting paid back, or maybe I was getting reminded that I'm still also "THE NERD" when they paired us up one too many times for school events.
I didnt like her, but I kept on being stuck with her.

And now there's this neighbor of mine who really doesn't have any friends. She wants so desperately to be my friend, constantly making friendly overtures to me, but i'm just not interested. And I don't think she's gotten that, because I am freindly in return, at least superficially.
The reason I don't want to be her friend is that we've got almost NOTHING in common. We are at much different places religiously, come from very different backgrounds, have very different outlooks on life, and have very different interests (I think).
She is a closed book. I've tried to open it, but it seems superglued shut.
She never talks. Freindship is about mutuality. Both people offer tidbits of information, sharing a little more and a little more, building trust. She doesnt talk about anything. After two years of freindship and i still know almost nil about her and her interests.
I am at a loss for how to proceed. Each time we get together, the conversation goes something like this.
"Hi"
"Hi."
"So how've you been?"
"Pretty good, baruch hashem. You?"
"Baruch hashem."
"What have you been up to lately?"
"Not much. You?"
"Not much."
"So what did you make for supper last night?"
"___, you?"
"____. What are you making for supper tonight?"
"____"
"Sounds cool, I'll need to get a recipe some time."
[Awkward silence.]
"So...."
[Repeat awkward silence.]

Now you get why I don't enjoy getting together, and why I push off get togethers with her?

My husband doesnt understand why I keep on complaining about my lack of freinds when i have someone very willing and eager to be my freind.
Its not about that. I want a freind i can bond with. Be close with. Talk about things that matter with.

Not just someone to label "freind" because she's there.